Wednesday, June 12, 2013
Dr. Harvey Karp also recommends a similar strategy in his Happiest Toddler on the Block book, where essentially you repeat or state exactly how the child is feeling. It takes patience, no doubt, but it's better than screaming back at the person who's in the midst of a meltdown.Check out Real Simple's article for strategies for every age.How to Handle Temper Tantrums | Real SimplePhoto by mdanys.
One reason people throw tantrums is that they want to be heard, says Susan Orenstein, a psychologist in Cary, North Carolina, who focuses on marriage and relationships. “They grow louder and more animated as a way to get attention and show you that this issue is important to them.” So let the tantrum thrower know you feel his pain. This doesn’t mean you have to agree. A simple “I understand you’re angry” will suffice. With kids, it’s also important to let them know that it’s OK to express emotion, but in an appropriate way. You might say to a toddler, “I understand that you’re frustrated that you can’t get the refrigerator open,” and then explain a better way to react: “If you would ask me to please help you, I’d love to.”
If you get lost, do the laundry. You know how to do that. You don’t need input or direction. Just do it.If you feel scattered, wash the dishes. Turn off your dishwasher and wash each dish as if it’s the most important thing you have to do.If your mind is racing, hang out by the spin cycle. Let the background noise quiet your mind.If you are anxious, sweep the floor. Sweep up your worry along with the dust (and dog hair in my case).When things get messy, shine your sink. If your to-do list is out of control or your mind is full of idea and you don’t know where to start, clean your sink.The link to the FlyLady's instructions for shining your sink is very appropriate, since the foundation of the FlyLady's philosophy of chaos-busting is baby steps, starting with a shiny sink.Simplify Your Life and Quiet Your Mind on The Spin Cycle | Be More With LessPhoto remixed from an original by Nomadic Lass.